The Joy of Love, Honor, and Obey

I take my husband’s strong, work-worn hand in mine and I am overwhelmed by love, joy, peace, and gratitude. With these dear rough hands, my husband loves me and gives himself for me, like no other person. By these hands, he provides for me, as he provided for the family we created together. He comforts me in sad times and celebrates with me in the good times. He is my best friend, the lasting companion of my life. My husband is there supporting me, no matter what unfolds before us each day. He sees what is best in me and he reinforces what he sees. His encouragement is solid. He knows all my flaws, inside and out and when I hurt him through my sin, he forgives me. Though he loves me with the passion of a man, he also loves me better, with a love that reflects the genuine love of God. My husband’s face is the face of unconditional love and he taught me the right definition of love by his actions. Even though he isn’t faultless, Jesus lives in him by faith and over the years, I’ve witnessed the process of his perfecting by faith and shared in that same process with him. The more he gives of himself to Jesus, the more he has to offer me; and as I submit myself to Jesus, I give myself to him. Our marriage isn’t a perfect marriage but because of Jesus, our marriage is joyful and strong. It is our mutual submission to Christ that has enabled our marriage to last, in Him our union consists. Our household is a household of faith.

I write these words in honor of my husband but also, in praise to God for blessing us with one another. Thirty-eight years is a long time for any human relationship to last and remain loving. I know it isn’t the ceremony we took part in or the license from the government that keeps us together. Though we have a powerful emotional bond, even that connection isn’t enough to maintain our union through all the threats in life that threaten to tear our relationship apart. We remain united on earth until death tears us apart because God put us together. Our marriage is our individual commitment first, to God, one another, our family, and to our community, to live as God ordains. It is our mutual submission to Christ that elevates our relationship to more than just another love affair. In Him our carnal union is made holy and is a living example of the relationship of Jesus Christ with the church. As my husband and I grow together in Christ, our relationship is a precise tool in conforming each of us to the image of Christ Jesus. Our unity isn’t only for us to enjoy, it is an important piece in God’s plan “to bring unity to all things in heaven and earth under Christ.” (Ephesians 1:10b)

Joyfully, I submit to Jesus in my marriage by submitting to my husband and when I stumble by failing to do so, I turn to God and my husband for forgiveness. My husband does the same by turning to God for strength and continuing to sacrifice of himself for my well-being. When we argue, we settle it before we go to sleep. Each of us lives by truth and truth keeps our relationship transparent and working on the things we’d rather not see. We are a team and together, we’ve built many things. My husband is the greatest blessing of my life, my miracle in flesh and blood. Together, we live, laugh, celebrate, fight, cry, and make peace only, to start all over again. I don’t regret one moment of it and I marvel at who we were when all of this began and who we are now. I am better because of him and he is better because of me. True marriage is surely, a work of God! I am thankful to be blessed in a marriage as ordained by God.

Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

12 thoughts on “The Joy of Love, Honor, and Obey

  1. Touching and very well stated. I enjoy reading the triumphs of others. Especially when they’ve battled and journeyed long and hard. Peace unto you both.

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    1. And that’s where the praise belongs.:0) Without Jesus, if I were still alive, I would be a bitter old woman by now and my husband would still be living on 2nd St. in Albuquerque, not a good place to live…;0/Jesus has done wonderful things in our lives!

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  2. Beautiful!

    This reminds me of the passage in Ecclesiastes 4.9-12:
    “Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone?

    Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
    ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:9-12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    You, your husband and God make that three-fold cord, and after 38 years, it remains unbroken. May God continue to bless your marriage!

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    1. Thank you, that brings tears to my eyes. My fist prayer after receiving Christ was that God would send someone to love me and soon after, I met my husband. I was so broken back then and he was kind of a mess too but because of Jesus, we have become so much better. My husband likes to call me “an upright ship” and that is quite a compliment considering the floundering young woman I was when we met. I believe in miracles because of the miracle God did in my life!

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  3. How wonderful to have such a loving and joyous relationship! It reminds me of a picture I once saw that described a couple relationship to God. It was shaped as a triangle so they closer they came to God the closer they were drawn to each other. Beautiful. It these days of so many broken and “blended” homes it’s good to hear about folks that made it through together

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    1. The spirit of marriage and family needs to be restored and then form will follow. Young people today don’t understand what marriage means and when I was young, I didn’t either. Somehow, we have to do a better job of teaching our children and not be surprised when they don’t blindly accept old traditions for tradition’s sake.


    1. Thank you, Thomas. No matter how good a marriage is it can’t be taken for granted. Till death do us part, mutual faith and mutual submission to God, with a lot of work is required to maintain any marriage. I’m determined to do so because I love my husband dearly and can’t imagine life without him. We are blessed.


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