Pretty little girl, dressed up like a doll, beautiful living toy!
An accessory for her mother! A show-piece for her father!
Sent to her room when her childish wants began to annoy,
Sedated with alcohol, when her emotional needs bother;
This is the beginning of girl’s ending: The Crushing of Joy!
No longer useful to accessorize the attire of her mother,
Her alarming behavior stole all of her father’s crowing joy!
Blaming Joy for parenting sins and shaming Joy to smother,
All her memories of how they abused and ruined their toy!
Not abuse but love they said, as we are Mother and Father!
We know best, you beautiful doll, valuable to some old-boy,
Merchandised as a wife, he will free us from all this bother!
Guard your treasure, wait, and don’t fall for any love-ploy!
Pretty, dumb doll, you are merchandise! And nothing other!
Don’t dare to dream any bigger! Don’t knit a plan to employ,
To lift yourself higher! You’re nothing! Don’t outshine mother!
Our needs matter! Don’t shame father! Don’t be a kill-joy!
Then sweet-talker came, disguised as love a Raging Monster!
Shattering! Crushing! And pulverizing! He dismantled Joy!
Finishes work the parents began, then reaches for another
Doll toy to break; sullied merchandize to use and destroy!
Crushed! Never becoming! Battered doll that dared to bother!
This is that too often repeated sad tale: The Crushing of Joy!
Little girls treated as objects grow up to objectify themselves and be objectified by others. Parents who emotionally neglect and abuse their daughters, paint a bright red target on their backs that make them prime targets for men who enjoy using and abusing young women. Taught that abusive words and actions are love, they will accept abuse as love. Girls who have no self-value but in their physical appearance and no goals but the love of a man, will be victimized by men who have no regard for women as people. Daddy’s little doll will not see anything wrong in being used as a sex toy or in being valued as merchandise. Being taught that abuse is love, they will often love themselves by abuse, and become alcoholics, drug addicts, self-mutilators, and develop eating disorders. The greatest damage inflicted through child neglect and abuse is the lies taught about identity and self-value. False definitions of love drive them to set themselves up for further abuse by anyone who promises love.
There is no more evil act than to crush the joy of a child but abuse victims don’t have to accept their fate. Jesus can rebuild what sin destroys and Jesus can fully restore the joy of every abused little girl. Those who turn to Jesus in belief find true love. Love that respects, values, protects, and guides them to wholeness and an abundant life. It isn’t magic but a miracle that takes place over time, on a healing journey that is a process of becoming the women God intended them to be. Miracles are better than magic because magic is just a trick but miracles are real. Everything a girl-child loses when abused, Jesus restores. He is the One who can turn an upside down world right-side up and then bless crushed little girls seven-fold in the new world to come. No one, no matter how broken is beyond transformation in Christ Jesus. Through genuine faith and obedience broken dolls can become living miracles, with joy restored!